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To Introduce Me to You

Hello To Introduce myself: I am Dave, recently I have become a professional bum (retired) and I just joined in the hopes of finding a companion for my travel adventures. I noticed that a lot of the folks here are already in Europe. Ha Ha so I am one of the US folks that travels to Europe or to places unknown. I am very adventuresome and open minded about the adventure. So I am looking forward to hearing and sharing. Also advice on how the SilverSurfers site works... I did surf growing up in California, but my stick was yellow-white not silver. Ha Ha Thanks 🙂 🙂


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Iris2u
26th Oct 2016 14:28:51
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Thanks for voting!
Welcome to the UK, just joined here myself, I am sure you will find plenty of active people interested in your travel request, I didnt see your retirement age though lol
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Belynda.C
5th Nov 2016 19:55:52 (Last activity: 5th Nov 2016 20:16:10)
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I am 63 and now live alone so I do understand how hard it can be to spend so much time on your own. I do not know many people my own age as I am not originally from Berkshire but think it would be great to meet up with similar for days out and travelling perhaps.
Response from jeanymay made on 5th Nov 2016 20:16:10
Welcome to the mad house Belynda. Enjoy
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Susanmkbr
31st Oct 2016 23:46:23 (Last activity: 1st Nov 2016 17:25:18)
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Ive done a fair amount of travel alone. I've also just said never again. I think I want to go somewhere and cant stand eating alone or remaining a spectator on an expensive single supplement holiday. What's all that about. I make half the mess and eat and drink half of everyone else and pay twice the price! Im turning into a female Victor Meldrew!!! No really not, but it does frustrate me. I want to go back to south west Florida or Italy. This year, I've done nothing. I've so missed a break and now I suffer from arthritis, I feel that I can't hold others back and no one will want a limping old biddy tagging along. I am, therefore, stuck. I still work full time too and have lost holidays simply because I feel lonely and lost if I take time off alone, I have thought about groups etc but, again, walking isn't really an option now and most of the stuff is during the day when I am at work. Getting old isn't funny I feel. I never for one moment thought I'd be left alone and realising that this "is it" has taken some coming to terms with. I hope my sons who don't seem to realise how tough getting older and living alone is, never feel this way. Is there a travel group?. Maybe we should start one up. Anyone else feel the same. ? Sue
Response from jeanymay made on 1st Nov 2016 09:11:20
Sorry to hear your problems Susan, which I fear reflect those of many of us myself included. I don't think the younger ones do understand how hard it can be when you are getting older and are alone.

I do try not to let mine know what a struggle it can be, because I want them to come and see a cherry smile not the grumpy old devil I'm turning into. I can remember my dad was always in pain and we just got used to his grumbles and let him get on with it as we had really known nothing else, and I think that is how it is really.

Speaking for myself the "Old lady" phase has started far too soon and taken me by surprise big time. I'm not quite 60 and had to retire early due to health problems and pain. Never for 1 minute expected to be alone and with restricted mobility so soon, as my life has always been so active and I loved to party and socialise.

I've not given up yet, so I hope to be back on the dance floor eventually without having to use too much WD40 ! May your creaks become less.
Response from Susanmkbr made on 1st Nov 2016 17:04:22
Ah, well I'm 63 now. The arthritis is as a result of being a fitness instructor and teaching over 30 hours of classes per week plus road running. I'm afraid the stress did my hip joints in. I know how you feel and yes, I do try to put the cheery face on and give off positivity. It's really difficult though when, inside, you are feeling just the opposite, I regret quite a lot of stuff which I missed with my late mother and although we weren't soul mates, I feel I could and should have done more and now that I am in the same boat, I do feel really guilty that I didn't quite get how lonely and despondent one can become. She had good neighbours who were with her constantly for outings etc., so she did have good company - I lived 72 miles away after she moved to Cumbria so it wasn't a journey I could make every day. My boys are 28 and 32 now. About the same age as me when I was focussed on my life and first baby so I get it but sadly it doesn't make me (privately) more accepting. I try to be as active as I can - I work full time still - but have difficulty walking even short distances now without support and find I can't carry shopping as it does my back and hips in. I thought about city breaks this year but it didn't seem sensible to book anything because I wasn't sure how mobile I would be at the time I was going - when I am well I tend to do far too much as well, taking the opportunity to "knock doors out of windows" to quote my grannie! Hey ho.
Response from jeanymay made on 1st Nov 2016 17:25:18
Yes some of this sounds very familiar to me, as I too hit the gym for years and was always on the go, as well as doing dance classes. I think we have worn ourselves out Sue. What used to take me half an hour has to be planned like a military operation.

I'm sure if you felt your mum had really needed you then you would have willingly done more. Don't get me wrong we didn't leave my dad high and dry, but what I meant was we began to accept that he was always in pain.

I know exactly what you mean about booking things in advance as how can you predict how your pain/health problems are going to be.

At least we still have our sense of humour though.
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