All new to this
Watch this postHi I have just joined this group. I am hoping to reach out to like minded people to help with my loneliness.
A bit about myself. I was widowed two years ago and I am still devastated and can’t see a way forward.
I have just turned 63 and still working.
Log in to comment
You need to be logged in to interact with Silversurfers. Please use the button below if you already have an account.
LoginNot a member?
You need to be a member to interact with Silversurfers. Joining is free and simple to do. Click the button below to join today!
JoinCommunity Terms & Conditions
Content standards
These content standards apply to any and all material which you contribute to our site (contributions), and to any interactive services associated with it.
You must comply with the spirit of the following standards as well as the letter. The standards apply to each part of any contribution as well as to its whole.
Contributions must:
be accurate (where they state facts); be genuinely held (where they state opinions); and comply with applicable law in the UK and in any country from which they are posted.
Contributions must not:
contain any material which is defamatory of any person; or contain any material which is obscene, offensive, hateful or inflammatory; or promote sexually explicit material; or promote violence; promote discrimination based on race, sex, religion, nationality, disability, sexual orientation or age; or infringe any copyright, database right or trade mark of any other person; or be likely to deceive any person; or be made in breach of any legal duty owed to a third party, such as a contractual duty or a duty of confidence; or promote any illegal activity; or be threatening, abuse or invade another’s privacy, or cause annoyance, inconvenience or needless anxiety; or be likely to harass, upset, embarrass, alarm or annoy any other person; or be used to impersonate any person, or to misrepresent your identity or affiliation with any person; or give the impression that they emanate from us, if this is not the case; or advocate, promote or assist any unlawful act such as (by way of example only) copyright infringement or computer misuse.
Nurturing a safe environment
Our Silversurfers community is designed to foster friendships, based on trust, honesty, integrity and loyalty and is underpinned by these values.
We don't tolerate swearing, and reserve the right to remove any posts which we feel may offend others... let's keep it friendly!
Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.
If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.
If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.
i am sorry to hear you have been widowed just 3 months ago? How are you getting on.
3 months is such early days. You might be a bit stronger in 6 -12 months but of course everyone grieves differently and it is gradual and there is no right or wrong. I am sure you could try to build a life in time just to give you some hope, it takes time to find some purpose again but you can.
Do you find that working full time helps give you something to focus on? or is it a struggle. I am glad you have your children. Coming home to the house will get easier in time.
I try to stay positive but it is difficult sometimes, hence, I too am now reaching out to broaden my horizons and take up chatting over the airwaves.
I love to get out for walks, also, messing about in the garden - I say that as I try but am not the best at it! Meeting up with friends/relatives lifts the spirits and helps me to keep abreast of what's happening locally and personally, it also allows me/us, the opportunity of trying to put the world to rights within our bubble!!. It is hard when your family are physically distant (as are mine), and so, it's even tougher now as these outings are curtailed, we are not allowed to meet up in each others homes/gardens presently due to newly imposed restrictions due to rise in infections in this area.
Here's to a vaccine, a longed for saviour for so many people's mental health and wellbeing as well as their physical health.
Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.
If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.
If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.
As others has said, you are reaching out by joining this website,
i will keep a look out for your posts.
I am enjoying the fresh breeze which comes through my window, after the heat of yesterday.
Personally, i am now a retired person, and had a lovely walk in the local park with a former work colleague, (the park is environmental now and so peaceful)
All the best
Sorry to hear of your loss, try not to dwell too much as things do get better as life goes on I promise you, I am also a newcomer to these forums and am glad that you have reached out here, we are all of a retired or semi-retired age some of us have worked all our lives and still ended up with no one to care for in later life, but we have a lot more to give, and to receive in these days. Not like the old days when once your partner left you were left alone for the rest of your life with no one daring to approach you to give comfort or a kind word.
If you feel like it, then give me a shout (Please don't think that the photo is really me, it was something I was playing with on my phone.
David.
I loved my husband very much and we had so much planned. Life is not fair
Zena
take care
Since then life has been happy and sad again, but now looking forward to a new life with an old friend. Any new life will include ups and downs, but there are many people looking for friendship or love.
That's enough from me, good luck and keep strong.
Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.
If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.
If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.
Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.
If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.
If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.
Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.
If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.
If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.
Maybe I am selfish running away, but it is my health and sanity I am thinking of at the moment, and the well-being of my two Dachsies.
Welcome and many thanks for your first comment in our Forum.
If you already know your way around, then we will leave you to it.
If you are looking for some lively discussions, head on over to the Forum homepage to see what's trending right now and feel free to join in the discussions, with all our friendly members, perhaps ask a question or even start your own post.