Anybody out there finding themselves on their own
Watch this postHi, I'm a widow and very happily retired. After losing my husband almost ten years ago I'm now accustomed to living alone.
That doesn't mean I don't need someone I can share my thoughts, good conversation and lots of laughs with. I am now 75 but still lively minded in body and soul. I'm not fuddy duddy or miserable.
I would really appreciate someone who enjoys life to become a good friend. Is that someone you?
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It has been incredibly hard to find the way forward and nobody can help ... much as they try...say the kind words...but its up to you to deal with and you do eventually... but its still there.
Im about to retire soon and thats another big step but im determined to continue on and see the world for what it is,, join some clubs and start being more social with like minded people. I think ive used my work style and people there to take over my life and now its time ( never too late right?) to enjoy my time. Never thpught id be widowed at 50 and alone......... I did have 30 wonderful years though.. Im ready to start enjoying life ..alone.... Im accustomed to my independence but would like a friend..x
thank you for your message, Im sorry ive been a bit delayed in replying, I do find this site hard to navigate- there are so many wondeful things on her but really difficult to wade through- I know many people feel the same which is a shame as theres so much on here. ( take note admin!!!)
So this is my last few days..... at work... really enotional and in some ways I cannot wait for it to be over!! In others its so sad a s a few people I will really miss, only a handful to be fair.. I too am hoping to be in the garden- not my strongest point but im willing to learn. Maybe you can give me a list of jobs that need doing each month or suggestions anyhow! Also the Goldster courses are offering £1 for 3 months which seems amazing - do you take part in any? So I will be busy and then feel like a cruise or holiday... so many options and after being in education foir my whole career- a holiday in term time-wow cheaper and more choice ... so seems like a lot to do....how busy will I be lol ,but for now I need to get through these last 4 days........ speak soon Jackie xx
Hello,
after reading several posts its difficult to reply and to get a 'chat' going so everyone can join in. Although Im probably doing it wrong- wouldnt be the first time lol. Im from Holland On Sea which is in Essex, a lovely seaside time, really busy in the summer as you can imagine but beautiful in the winter, lovely walks along the beach. A smallish town but near enough to the bigger cities like Colchester and a bit futher London. Where's everyone else from? Being a widower is difficult at times, so many stories on here how people have been tricked and scammed into losing money just because we want some companionship and friendships! So unfair .Im trying to join some solo travel groups which have an independent operator and organiser- probably a bit more expensuve but I think it saves time and trouble organsiing trips and sites to see... anyway if anyone has any groups, web links or anything already could you let me know please?
Are there any places to visit that is worth seeing, any recommendations from others? I really want to go to Singapore, heard some many amazing things about it- anyone been? Im sure though that in the UK there are great places to visit. I need to investigate.
Anyway, I hope this post gets some responses, just so we can build a thread about holidays, hobbies anything really,, just be nice to read and learn new things from different people from all over the place
x Jackie
since left as I felt a little bit out of the loop, as the main two ladies, Janet
and funnily enough another Jackie, they were both recently widowed, and
as I have never been married, so have not lost a spouse, I felt for them and
tried to bring a bit of fun into the group, but in the end I could no longer
feel comfortable, so I left, there were 6 of us in the chat room, and it may
still be going strong without me in it, anyway I hope that you get many
more reply’s to your comment, and by the way Singapore sounds lovely,
but I am an Africa fan myself, and usually do overland trips with a company
called Absolute Africa, you can look them up on Google, to see what it’s all
about, it may give you some travel ideas, all best wishes, and good luck
with everything, Terry.
to explain why I left the chat room, it certainly was nothing that you or
the rest of the group did to upset me, I just felt a bit helpless that I could
do nothing to ease the hurt that you and Jackie were feeling with the
loss of your husbands, I of course, have not gone through the same
experience that you both have and I could not find the words to comfort
you both. I do hope that you are somehow coming to terms with your
loss, and that with the help of friends and family life will get better.
So please don’t think that you are in anyway at fault, it was only in my
head that I thought that the best course of action that I could take, was
to leave you to grieve in your own way, I thank you for thinking of me,
and I hope that you stay positive and keep well, all love, Terry x
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It must have been awful on the cruise = confined space and unable to get away from an unpleasant person. Learn from it. Never share the costs with someone you do not know really well...and not always wise even then - both pay up at the time. It is not a rare thing to hear of men who rip off women...they are contemptable! Use the experience as a lesson never to be repeated in the future! Take care - your kindness was abused and you deserved better!
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I am also a widow - for a 5 1/2 years. I am also quite content living alone with my small dog Sophie. I am 68, soon to be 69, and although I have a few minor physical problems am also lively in body and soul. Sophie and I take 45 min. walks twice a day and I keep up with current events by reading three papers a day plus our local paper.
I am in Canada (Ontario) and last year took a six-week road trip to Newfoundland, Nova Scotia, New Brunswick and Quebec. It felt great. Having a dog is a great way to meet people although eating out can be a problem. She turned out to be a great travelling companion.
I don't know your situation but I was quite astounded by a lot of people's attitude after my husband died. A lot of people, and some were close friends, thought I needed hand holding and direction as to how to handle my life. I should do this, I should do that. It was a little offensive. A lot of the world seems to believe widows should hide away somewhere and are too fragile to manage things on their own. Then there are the women who seem to believe that you'll be after their husbands and are friendly until they find out you're a widow. Sheesh. Anyway, just my two bits. Gives you an idea of who I am.
I would also like a friend who wants to discuss life. Is that you?
thank you for responding. Yes, it is a hard road we're on but I take comfort from the knowledge that time is a great healer and though we never, ever forget we can perhaps look forwards; come to terms with such a great loss at some point... even be happy again......as you have.
Baby steps!
I've seen a slight shift in my mental/emotional health this past week.
I'm actually getting out and about.,
Bought a couple of things for the house, took myself off for a Costa! It doesn't sound much but for the past three months I've been .....well, I don't know where I've been....Planet Zog for all I know.
My daffodils popped up this week and the crocus' the week before.
Spring is almost here and I take great comfort in that.....the cycle of life....
Yes, I could do with a friend and I would be delighted to hear from you and too, about how you personally coped over the years after losing your husband.
I'm sure I could learn something from you.
I am 69, kids grown and flown and living down South whereas I am in the North.
I'm hoping to move closer to them eventually. It is a work in progress and another big change to navigate eventually.
Sometimes though, I feel very, very isolated.
Sometimes, I'm ok and feel that I'm coping brilliantly!
This is such a confusing time for me. I am trying hard to be strong and some days i succeed .
Some days I fail miserably.
Baby steps.
I would love to know how you made it through if you have been widowed.
It is eleven weeks tomorrow for me.
More baby steps...
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