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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I find myself at 57 starting over. I am happy most of the time, but it can be lonely...this is why I thought making new friends from all over the world would help fill the void Is there anyone else feeling the same pain?


Created By on 02/11/2015

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Gglotusbloom
27th Nov 2015 03:59:38 (Last activity: 29th Nov 2015 03:12:27)
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Hi, I am 61 and have been alone for 4yrs. My last relationship went sour..and dangerous quickly. He was bi-polar. I thought I knew him and we did have 10 great months together before it all went to heck. That experience really scared me and I shied away from getting involved with another man. It took time for me to recover from the bad experiences and emotions of that relationship. During that alone time I had my grand daughter every other weekend and spent the rest of the time, working, hanging out with friends and just being alone. I have gotten used to being alone. I recently developed a strong friendship with a man but have discovered that I really don't want someone around in the apt with me..it kinda cramps my style. I guess I have become ''set in my ways" Sometimes I want to have a relationship again but all the that goes with it and all the energy is just too much for me. I wonder how others my age feel about this stuff.
Response from Deee1 made on 27th Nov 2015 20:06:34
I am 52 and have been seperated for 5 years. I recently have been blessed with a granddaughter. I really relate to how you feel. I think I just miss having a best friend guy to talk and joke with. There is some part of life that kids & your girlfriends can't fill.
Response from Gglotusbloom made on 29th Nov 2015 03:12:27
True... only companionship of the opposite sex can fill certain voids. I have a male friend. He is a good man but a super nerd and kinda like Sheldon on Big Bang Theory but there is no one to write funny lines for him. Affection is missed very much. Don't know if I will ever have that again and I really miss it.
tripper123
20th Nov 2015 17:51:06
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hi Marylou yes being alone can be painfull but I cope by filling my days with new hobbies and walking my dog I am beginning to build a good strong lifestyle and quiet cherish some me time lol hope you get over your pain soon I know it isent easy xx
grangrad
6th Nov 2015 14:54:06
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Hello, Hope I'm not intruding, I read your post and was struck by the "feelings of loneliness and pain"
I am feeling like this a lot of the time. Not through a breakup as such, I lost my wife of 40 years over 6 years ago, i too can be happy and often am but there are still those feelings.
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