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Giving lifts to someone!

Hi all, So....I started a new job 3 mths ago. My place of work is just outside a village. I live approx 12 mins drive from work. A couple of days after starting work a colleague asked if I could give her a lift home. It was on my way through the village by work so agreed.

Every shift I'm now on with her she now "tells" me I am giving her a lift. Not asking, tells me! Around 6weeks ago she also asked if I could pick her up on my way. (Not at her home, she would start walking and I was to pull over if I saw her). I declined stating I didn'tt want to commit to this, as (1)I like to leave home when I'm ready, not have to consider someone else and (2)If I were sick for example, she'd be waiting for me, and it would make her late for work.

She recently asked if I was on Facebook, and I replied, yes I am but only accept family and very close friends onto my friends list. I feel she wanted to send me a friend request so she can contact me easily for lifts.

So I feel these lifts are being forced onto me, I have chosen to leave home at different times so I don't have to pick her up.

Yesterday she told me again she needed a ride home. I replied...sorry can't do it tonight, my husband is meeting me down the beach, so I'm driving in a different direction! She then gave me a look to kill and just walked off.

She doesn't drive, but her husband does. I'm wondering why he doesn'tt give her lifts in/back again as she has already told me he is at home when she leaves for work/returns.

I had this issue in a past job, where a guy kept asking me for lifts. I later found out (after weeks of giving him lifts)that his wife drives (He had no license) but she can't be arsed taking him to work and back. So why is that my problem?

It isn't it is? Same with the lady at my present job. Thoughts please?

Created By on 27/06/2021

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3rd Jul 2021 12:44:04
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There are always problems with such one-sided relationships. Most of us fall into the trap because we are, at heart, good people who want to offer help when asked. In this situation be firm and honest. Either help out only when it suits you and does not take you out of the way or if this is not possible then make it a clear no! This may make things strained for a short time but if this person is the type she seems to be, she will soon turn her focus on someone else. Good luck.
29th Jun 2021 00:00:43
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Don't give lifts, ever! These days it's just too risky.

I make the exception for people in the village I've lived in for twenty years. We know each other well. There'll be no problems.

Anyone else ... no! Drive on. Or, if they ask face to face just say no.

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