People Have Forgotten How To Be Friends...
Watch this postI honestly believe that. There are people whose names I know, who actually refer to themselves as being my friends, and consider themselves to be mine.
They don't behave like friends, though. How............how does a person fit the category of "Friend", anyway? How would I know that those people are friends, or just people I know.
There are 4 main characters in this situation. I've known one for 48 years, one for around 35 years, etc.. At absolutely no time have they ever picked up a phone and started a conversation with me, voluntarily.
If they and I are in conversation, on the phone, it's because I've phoned them...they just seem to have no interest, beyond themselves. I've spent decades telling them that, day or night, awake or asleep, dead or comatose, they can call me if they need to. Many times arose during which they needed somebody and...no phone rang at my house.
Whenever they need something from me, they phone and ask about it. Even when they know I'm going through a bad time and could use somebody to help work things out with...the phone has never - not even once - sounded off. I don't see how they can assume themselves to be friends of mine.
The art of friendship appears to be a dying one!
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Yes I get where you are coming from. Is why I NOW say 'aquaintances' not friends. Because aquaintances are exactly as you describe them. Friends are there for friends in good and bad times and well just to catch the breeze of every day goings on. I feel the art of friendship is dwindling as no one looks at anyone anymore or talks. Even when you get on a bus these days it's ''quiet''. What happened to the chatter? Too busy heads stuck in their mobile phones. It's all 'chat online'. The art of conversation is dwindling! It's only on occasion I've found myself in a conversation at the busstop with someone. Then feel 'cheered up abit' only it lasts for as long as till the bus turns up then conversation ends. Then it's back to the 'silence' and hum drum of the bus engine.
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Covid is still out there, still more rampant than the Media, or the Government, would have us believe, and I still can never again have company, which concept I'm becoming more adjusted to, I admit...it's still a weird thought, though.
I'm hoping to get out for some overnight walks, this Summer, on the hottest of the nights, because those walks are like bliss, for me...getting out of this house. This time, I plan to take along a cigar and listen to music on my mobile phone, while seated in a silent, darkish field, and just...............loving the experience.
However...I'll believe that happens just after it finishes happening!
So Ian, I hear you!
Get off the dock, hop in the boat, and paddle... look for new folks, you might be surprised. May sound harsh, but it doesn't seem your old friends would notice, nor care.
Damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Today I saw a friend for the 1st time in over 5 weeks, she cancelled, I cancelled, she had ill kids, I had antibiotics, texts from a distance, we both knew where each other was..
Also, take my two brothers, one likes weekly contact, quick phonecall about his work and what we are doing, my other brother, we have a periodic system, no news is good news, so if we call its important at that moment.
So I feel your pain my dear, when we were younger, there was no hiding behind technology and gizzmos. Also we could walk to the Village Hall for the Friday disco in safety, unlike today
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So I don't rely on anyone but myself. I keep me to myself as I've learnt people only want you when you are of some use or want something from you. Rest of the time you never hear from them. Also when you tell them that FRIENDSHIP is a two way street they agree with you but never contact you! HOW WEIRD! I'm not saying behave like a spouse but even once a week for a catch up. But I'll be darned if they pay any attention. So I stop chasing people. I stop contact if they don't interact!
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Trustworthy.
Honest with others.
Generally very dependable. loyal to the people I care about.
Easily able to trust others.
Experience and express empathy for others.
Able to be non-judgmental.
A good listener.
If you can honestly say you have these qualities, then you are a true friend. Look to yourself first. Judge your friends second..
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They are the ones letting the side/friendship down...it's not me. So, maybe, you need to drop being judgemental!
As for, "Able to be non-judgmental."...you were judgemental about me when you decided to say that to me. If you don't like what I write, go and read something else!
I hope that on here you will make some new connections that could develop into worthwhile friendships.
I think that good decent people can be taken advantage of.
There's a line I read somewhere "people use people they can abd respect those they can't".
Pull back they next tine they call wanting something.
Agree good friends are hard to come by and no you are not being unreasonable.
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