People who make no effort when buying giftsWatch this post
Am I being ungrateful? My friend, whom I've known for 20+ years, never makes an effort to find a suitable gift for me (or anyone else, I suspect). She always offloads the job either onto her daughter or, believe it or not, onto the recipient.
I've spent the last 5 years giving her a list of which books I'd like for Christmas, so she can pick one out at random and pretend it's a surprise. One year, she even asked me to buy (and wrap) my own present and send her the bill.
This year, it's slightly different - she got her daughter to pick out a book for me online and have it sent directly to me. I've met her daughter just 3 times over the past 2 decades and we have never discussed the type of books we like to read. I have, however, discussed my intense dislike of "misery novels" with my friend (child abuse, domestic violence, surviving sick situations, etc).
Today, you've guessed it, a misery novel arrived in the post - not wrapped or signed, no message from my friend - I only realised it was from her because I just happened to see her daughter's name on the bookshop label.. I take so much care choosing gifts for her, it just feels like a slap in the face when she obviously thinks, "Aw, that'll do for her, I can't be bothered even thinking about what to get." Is it just me?
Should I be feeling grateful for getting any gift, even if it's obviously given in an offhand, don't-care manner?
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