Re-socialisation
Watch this postHi all - I'm 67 just remarried 2 yrs ago. I've had a widely diverse life but could be a better judge of character. Lived in Australia for 10 yrs and and France for 5yrs. My passions used to be horses and motorbikes but I have slowed down a bit now.
Unfortunately I now find myself married to a man with passive aggressive covert narcissist personality disorder which impacts on me greatly. As soon as the world is covid safe I would like to travel in a motor home and get as far away as possible.
Any other ladies doing this - would love to hear from them. I used to be quite fun loving though responsible but lost my mojo for a while now. The people where I live are a bit hostile to new people so its a double whammy.
Open to chat too so long as you're not a Trump supporter 🙂
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I'm even more convinced now we should look to enjoy our later lives independently when we come out of an earlier relationship...I married inv1980 and we are about to Divorce now, after seperating over 2 years ago and both have new lives now.
Ivvrrlocsted yo Portishead after 33 years in the marital home in Lechlade, so its been quite a wrench., but also exciting to make a fresh start on my own, changed job ,bought my own little house, as we sold up and went halves before bothering with divorce proceedings.
Only moved here 1st Sept.Lockdowns have meant I can't join anything to get to know new people and make new friends, so it is a bit lonely at times.
So I'd be happy to meet for coffee and chat if ypu'de like.
I’m in a not dissimilar one but with a son. He came to live with me and my husband six years ago after a breakdown. We were really happy to help.
Sadly, my husband died a year later but the son is still with me...increasingly manipulative and preventing me from meeting friends or moving on. I look after his children far too much and feel trapped. He’s started criticising everything I do, and is deliberately unkind, freezing me out if he doesn’t like something I’ve said or done. It’s just as hard to escape as it would be from a partner, maybe harder as I feel a ludicrous sense of responsibility towards him and his children.
My idea of a retreat was a canal barge but honestly, why should we be the ones to pack up and run? It shouldn’t be like this at our age, should it?
Good job we can open up here, a safety valve.
Best wishes.
Maybe if asking him to leave would make them all homeless, you could charge enough rent for them to stay in your house and you rent somewhere for yourself with his rent money ?
You certainly need to get away before you are the one having a breakdown...
Awful situation to be in.
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I am at a crossroads in my life & have been thinking about the motor home & travel as well. I see your post was this past April. Are you still using this site? I’m 63 & just joined.
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Your post provided a much-needed smile--thank you! Loved the Trump comment at the end, as well 🙂 I hope you've been away from here driving town-to-town, in your motorhome, like a madman in search of the Holy.. Mojo 🙂
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I have heard of Sam Vaknin but haven't read his book about malignant self love. For a while after I left, I was a bit obsessive about finding out more about narcissism. I'm over that now! However I'm really, really happy to offer support to anyone who is still enmeshed. If you'd prefer to private message - not sure how to do that but happy to try. This is a bit public!
Stay strong.
Wol
I think your plan of a motor home sounds amazing, so go for it. You deserve it. You sound like you need the space to think about and for once prioritise yourself and have a life and cherished moments of your own. Fortunately however we have online forums like this one to escape to in the meantime!
Take care, Ellen
Cheers Anni
COURAGE! Forward march!
Blessings to you!
Miss Jo