MOVING HOME ALONE ......AND TO A NEW PART OF THE COUNTRY
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Have you any experience of moving somewhere new on your own? I would love some input into my plan for the future, if you would be so kind.
My circumstances are as follows:
I have found myself a bit isolated since I am widowed and no longer out at work. I seem to have only acquaintances rather than close friends nearby. I have joined clubs and keep busy with hobbies, but the few people I have met seem set in their existing groups of friends or are reluctant to do anything in the evening. I have retired before getting my state pension as I no longer feel well enough to work.
Lack of funds is stopping me doing more on my own.
So I have come up with a plan to sell my home and rent somewhere instead; this will give me some more disposable income, enabling me to do more and to travel to meet old friends and family. It would also take away some concerns re house maintenance.
Now for my curved ball…… It has been suggested to me that I move 100+ miles away to Warwickshire…… a beautiful area with plenty of new places for me to explore and good transport links for visiting friends and family. I have done some online investigating and it certainly has potential. Now I am wondering what pitfalls there might be that I have not thought of.
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I could go out and make a fortune again, and have some great things working right now. I am a published author, and I have I think a good understanding of the world and the ancient text. I am educated, a teacher, I won a language award for a speech I was gave in college. I just love people and going new places, I can read and understand ancient sanskrit, and ancient japanese; love languages of the world. Linguistics was one of my fields. I also was invited to Egypt for my theory on the purpose of the pyramids by a prominent university professor.
So I enjoy taking my lady shopping and treating her with respect, spoiling her, and loving her everyday, not just sometimes.
I love all races of people. I am an independent, and do not push my politics on others. I like the philosophy of Buddhism but I am not religious, but would like to consider myself very spiritual and loving. I like each day to be a special gift for everyone around us; bringing joy to even things that are hard in life. I like to write poet verse. I hope to have someone to run to when you get home. That meets you at the door. It is a gift when you have someone you can watch over and protect. That is what you will get from me. I am a very caring person, and I want to always be there for those I love.
This nation has hurt many Americans financially. I may lose my beautiful place any day; and I have my ancient library, and art and things I collected all over the world throughout my life. Funny to think this could happen in America. I lost 26 million back in 2008 I estimate, and now I may be homeless and this country refuses to take any responsibility.
I am in good shape, I work out every other day or so, with my own exercise routine. I have no tattoos, or rings in my nose. I am clean cut. I belong to the academia of kung-fu. I am highly skilled in martial arts, and very toned, and athletic, a gold medal all state track and field when I was a young man. I am performer, sing music like frank Sinatra, and I am a good chief, have run some great restaurants in Seattle Washington. I also do windows, laundry, and can clean a house, and yard, fix things, and I am not a slob, a very sophisticated Irish italian warm blooded man. Very passionate and motivated. Not a lazy person. Always up for what you like to do, and new stuff. Museums, parks, walks, bikes, kites, beaches, you name it. I like to eat right, any kind of food though. Not picky at all. Like it spicy too with chopsticks LOL!!! China is so fun!!!
I do not do any drugs and like a drink occasionally, but do not drink everyday. But I will have a few if we are out having fun dancing, and such, there is a right time and place for everything. I have no criminal record, or do have any sexual diseases. I am very healthy, and take no medications, and have nothing wrong with me. Very active and strong. I was a real estate developer, and have a good knowledge of business. I am ready to start a new life, I would rather spend my days enjoying life with someone special instead of once again in the pursuit of money to then try and find someone special and thus waste all those years LOL!!!
I love the water and skiing. I have another 40 good years I figure. I am 58 young and my family lives long. I have been told I look 40. You decide, and I promise I will do my best to live up to everything I have said here. Hard to talk about yourself but if we do not give people a clue about us, how can we connect. Love cruises by the way. Hope to meet someone special. I have to say I am a little beat up as I have been trying to save my falling empire for years now as you can imagine and I have many claims I could sue on. And I have. Caught one person we found almost a million dollars they stole, but have to sue, so tired how people are so evil and just bad. But I know there are so many good people, and I just hope I could find that one special person that just is happy to have someone that will stay with them and not abandon them, and love them with all their heart forever. I am the most loyal person you will ever meet. Thank you for listening. Be well, namaste!
Why I want to travel
Yes, I have traveled, cruises, also planes. trains, automobiles, wait that's a movie LOL!!! No seriously. so yes much travel: Japan, China, Italy, malta, Mexico, Turkey, Greece and on… I love cruises, and I am an experienced traveler, translator of language. Use to plan trips for up to 500 people when I was leading shows in Chicago, New York, LA. I was a choreographer for one show at the Rosemont Horizon Theatre when I was just 23. I love to do things spontaneously. I like fine wine, and can pick the right vintage with meals, but can enjoy a hotdog a the game. I can map out where we are going to make sure we hit all the best places and things to do to get the most out of a trip. I once was a roller gymnastic teacher. We did moving 3 story high pyramids moving down the street in Seafair parades in Seattle Washington. I say this because I like to stay connect to what the real people and the activities that are going on. When I was in Beijing I caught a flying Circus it was a small theatre but it was spectacular. I visited all the Buddhist temples and many sacred sites. I am an oldscholarr of the ancient Buddhist and Veda text from India. I am a historian, a writer. I run three websites, one scientific. I study Cosmology, — teach the origins of our universe looking back at ancient civilization like Atlantis, Lemuria, So it is fun to look at the history of an area, or not LOL. JUst sometime having fun. I am very easy going. Love to listen to music with great friends, good food, dancing, romance… Real life, fire on the beach, our feet in the sand… even an occasional 420 stick…
Thanks in advance!
One thing that supports my sanity about this and the whole adventure of much-later life is writing about it. Any (polite) comments welcome!
Tessa
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It sounds very intriguing. I hope you moved well to your new house and already met new people, who are ready to spend time with you too, and not only in their closed circles.
Personally, I do not like to move in new places. It is always stressful for me. For instance, I am planning to move again from LA to somewhere else. And I still do not know to where. I am planning to rent a small flat, maybe a studio with a kitchen, so it will be only I and nobody else.
I will edit my comment when my moving will be done too. Just if somebody will be interested :3
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Now, It is about 2 years that I'm happily residing in Fort Worth. I believe moving to a new place is not a bad idea if you feel uncomfortable living in your location.
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I am thinking of moving into a retirement village somewhere,, whe 're one can hopefully meet like-minded People. Would love to hear from.some one who has.made the move and is contended.
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I actually live near the sea now but want to have a bolt hole inland!
I shall go ahead and investigate the area I love, there are parks, specialist shops, buildings of historic interest etc., to explore. Always feel as if I have ‘gone home’ when I visit, getting excited already!
I hope I can get used to being more practical when I am staying there too, can hardly keep ringing up my husband for help with burst pipes etc can I? Haven’t lived by myself for so long, and son and daughter live miles away. Time to face up to a new way of life!
Don’t think my husband will even notice that I won’t be living in the family home all of the time, he just does his own thing!
I`m not single but live with my husband as friends really, after many years together. We do not want to separate, there are many advantages to staying married for us.
However I am very independent and like to do my own thing, I have inherited some money from relatives which is mine to spend. I like where we live but really want to have a place of my own too, at the other end of the county, about 25 miles away. I grew up there and absolutely love the area, visiting is not good enough!
My husband is set in his ways and won`t move there permanently but has no objection to me buying a little holiday home for myself. He has a hobby that takes him away quite a lot anyway.
Am I being selfish or weird? I do love the idea but get a niggling feeling that I will feel guilty because I shall not be doing the conventional thing.
Love reading about others who have moved away.
I am 66years old, and have arrived at a totally new lifestyle for 2020.
I have just retired.
I have just separated following my wifes announcement of an established alternative relationship.
I have put my house on the market, and after splitting the proceeds will have to move to new location to afford to buy again.
So, all to look forward to, new lifestyle, new friends and best experiences.
I hope this site will be helpful in moving forward.
Good luck with you new life - you sound very positive about it. The same thing happened to me 7 years ago - my partner announced that after 10 years together that we were incompatible; the week after I moved out there were photos all over Facebook of him on holiday with his new floozy!!! All very hurtful, but it certainly gave me the incentive to move on with my life . I'm fortunate in that I moved to a village about 3 miles away from where I used to live so I kept my old friends, made lots of new ones and now have a very busy lifestyle which keeps me out of mischief 🙂
I hope that all goes well with your house purchase and that you can start to enjoy your retirement doing things that you want to do.
Good luck with your move, retirement takes a bit of getting used to but you are going to be busy moving and hopefully creating a new life for yourself.
Have fun and lots of adventures.
Thanks for your comments.
I fully intend to go onwards and upwards on my journey through life!!
There is no stopping a man who has just found the excitement of supermarket shopping on a Friday morning!!!
I think what I'm trying to say, because it's what I feel, is are there really any pitfalls to relocating? If I add up what I have where I am, what's the real value? I love my home but I have to work full time to keep and maintain it, so I if I downsized I'd have more money and time. I'd also be able choose a nicer environment; more rural or even coastal. I'd love to hear from anyone who has done this. By the way - I am female - Henry was my old Labrador!
I was widowed at 46...sold my home and moved, alone, from Louisiana to California into a apartment when I retired! The "upkeep" on a home that was 30 years old, and quite large, was draining me in every since of the word....let alone the constant flooding, flood insurance, and hurricanes to deal with. With an apartment, they do everything for you....and that means everything! Even light bulbs!
I rented out my home, first, on VRBO , a one year commitment, and traveled off and on between rentals that I vetted and oversaw myself. That was very easy and exciting at first but I began to feel like I was living out of a suitcase....which, of course, I was! It did afford me to decide without a doubt to move to a resort town in Southern California after spending 2 full months here.
You can make a "move" as easy as pie and affordable if you do your due diligence BEFORE you sell your home! If there is anything I can help you with, just let me know!
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Don’t leave it until you are too old you will regret it that’s for sure . Write a list and put what’s good about where you are and what’s not so good and then compare with same list of Warwickshire .