What am I doing wrong?
Watch this postI have achieved enormous success in my professional life, and achieved all that is possible for me to do. I have enjoyed a lifestyle of which most can only dream. I have no ambitions left to fulfill. So why does happiness elude me ? I quite enjoy living alone, and my own company. But there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely! I have a wide and varied circle of associates, and 1 really good friend, upon whom I would trust my life. I have 3 children, two boys and a girl, all of whom maintain an extremely regular contact with me. I realise that this statement only contains “I” not “we”, which is a source of sadness to me. So, what am I doing that is so wrong, in my personal life ?
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Of course it would be nice to have someone very special to share things with but I feel you are worrying too much. Fate will lend a hand when you least expect it to.
I relate to your message above. I have been successful too. I have friends. Both of my daughters live in the same road as myself. I never knock on their door. We respect our privacy and ring first.
I'm afraid I have too many "I's just like you.
I have wondered where I am going wrong, but I have decided it is fate, or some people are luckier than others I guess.
I think that it would be nice if we could both find "Love" we all need to love and be loved.
Best Wishes
Don't give up on life! What will be will be!
I am seeking a holiday companion to travel and see places and meet new people, perhaps go on a cruise as I love travelling, so doing the things that make you happy seems right to me and maybe love will just come along with it.
Bye
skyatnight
I think you want to be in L-O-V-E with a like- minded person and share new experiences with them. That someone may even be closer than you think...if you come up for air again.
Really...what have you got to lose...going back to being sad.
Yes I applaud the comments too. All the suggestions sound wonderful but just because people were successful in the careers does not mean that they have the confidence to go out of their comfort zone to do new things . I could no doubt knit a blanket, and I do give to charity but I do not sit back with a halo - No I do what I feel comfortable with and that is voluntary work. Surely better to encourage people to take small steps towards finding a way forward for them that will benefit themselves and possibly others .One small step at a time and if you want to dive in caves or whatever floats your boat hopefully you will have helped yourself and others along the way.
Have you run a marathon, have you plunged through a flooded cave, have you climbed a vertical cliff face, dived for clams? Have you campaigned for political office, have you written at least one novel, have you knitted a woolen blanket for a poor refugee child? Have considered giving up whinging and starting to live your life and thanking your lucky stars that you have much more than millions of people in this country?
We should perhaps be more like dogs, 'scratch some grass, and then get on with our lives.'
'Meditation' and 'mindfulness' are waste of time and energy and are no substitute for a brisk walk over the hilltops.
Some people are never satisfied, are they?
I always thought it was it was the the ability to have children that was the problem ( medical )BUT it never was and now I realise that I am just not happy. I work hard, I am good at what I do, but I have lost all my zest for life because I realise I am unhappy.
I truly believe that I was born with my cup half empty and that as much as I do, I will never be happy. Like you I am alone, and at times very lonely. Perhaps we have too much time, or think too much. were our grandmothers happy? Was it possible to be HAPPPY fifty years ago? Content, yes, proud and pleased, and all the time doing their best. I have done my best, I started out with that intent but lost sight of family and friends.
I also get great happiness from watching baby rabbits in the fields in the summer and my heart soars when I stand on the hill tops and marvel at the panoramic views where I can see 4 counties. If that ain't happiness then the word needs to be redefined.
I have little money, no close friends and no family, but I have more than money can buy, a deep and enduring sense that I have all that I need and that anything else would be superfluous to my needs.
The secret is in not 'getting what you want, but in wanting what you've got.' I don't know who said that, but it sums it all up for me.
Finally, I have, or, should I say, had children, and they are not always the blessing you might think they are, mine certainly were not.